When the competitive nature supercededs the fun and love of the game what do you do?

[GrandMasterKC]

After spending sometime in MD and not only playing but taking mental notes from "Big Salty-The Legendary Keith Chalmers" I left with a new wealth of knowledge about being a man in this hobby and how many have came face to face with "I must win vs love/fun of the game"....many have faced this or someone in the metamorphis( ) of this phase...some say take a timeout from play, some have left all together..what is your experience? i reflect back to a recent game with a Coach I admire and respect greatly ..we had a fun game, no ref for most of the game, played a gentlemans game, battled to the end and in OT(man that dang OT is my story this season 1-3 this year)he won 34-28, I went to shake his hand and he gently pushed my hand away and gave me a big "man hug" and honestly if I had won, I believe he would have done the same thing for the "man hug" was a nonverbal statement of "Enjoy the game". Last year this Coach helped me understand the balance between winning/losing and how to keep it fun and balanced...... this Coach is a key reason why I still play today ....so again what do you do?