Do we have the right to pick and choose?

[Reginald Rutledge]

Should we just be content with having the opportunity to play with whomever wants to play or do we have the right be discriminatory in who we spend our time with.

For some of us, we've been a part of leagues (sometimes founding leagues) but have found that it just does not appeal to us anymore. As you continue to play in these leagues year-after-year, you find that "Just maybe I want to go in a different direction" attitude is what you carry everyday. Do I have that right to get out or do I stay in it and try to make things better?

You find that you do not want to deal with people who do not support your product. Do you stay for the sake of the league or move on and do your own thing?

You find that it is taking up too much of your time, consuming weekends and sometimes holidays. Do you check out or try to make things work?

One of the big things I love about the potential to have a league is being able to play on the Internet, pla in stadiums, use my products, and pick and choose who I want to spend my final years on this earth hanging around. Is that so wrong? Or you do what you do!

I went out to eat with a friend of mine, Barry Stephenson, and my wife and we started talking about leagues. There was discussions about new leagues but Rose also let it be understood, "No league is Utopia". Maybe she's right but I also know I like to determine my own destiny in who I pick and choose.

Reg

[mozeek]

If you are the Founder..... Yes you do have the right to pick and choose....But when you start something should you finish it or walk away and let it fall by the wayside????????....What I start....I plan on finishing and for me when they don't comply....they can say bye bye.....



We need quality not quantity.....

[jeff]

I play my league mates and then anyone else with character.

[styx]

you have the right to be choosey, especially if you are the commish of a league, if coach's dont show up to play year after year, or cheats thier leaguemates game after game, thier just wasting the leagues time ,especially if you have alot of coach's who love and repect the game and each other ,your wastiing thier time also,so yes you do have the right to look out for your league.

[ChrisStacey]

I don't think you should discriminate on who you let play in your
league,initially,unless you just know the person is a train-wreck
waiting to happen.You don't need this.Tell them no.Be honest
and tell them why,also....Anyone else,I say give them a chance.
If they blow it then it's time to go.Some may try to get back in
and this is when you weigh all the Pros' and Cons of why they
should or shouldn't be let back in and whatever it was that
got them kicked out in the first place.If it's No then it's No.
If that's discrimination,so be it.If you choose to give them
a second chance that's OK too,if they deserve it.Just don't
forget what got you and them to this point to start with.
I'm all for giving someone a chance,IF they deserve it.If they
don't,they don't.And there's usually a good reason(s) why.
One other thing.Don't go by "hear-say". Form your own opinions
on someone.Atleast give them that respect. I'm guilty of having done
this,only to find out the cat telling me/us all the BS was the trouble
maker.I'll leave it at that.......

SEMPER FI,
Chris Stacey
Hampton,VA

[RooMorgans]

I'll play anyone once.

If you win, fantastic. If I win, that's cool too. If you win and you're cool, or you lose and you're cool, I'll play you again.

If you win and you're a jerk, I won't play you again.

If you lose and you're a jerk, I won't play you again, despite the satisfaction I might get from beating you because you're a jerk.

Ed

[Reginald Rutledge]

sometimes, have amnesia about how guys have acted in the past. We look past their past acts because we want them in our league. Chris Stacy hit on something that I think is very important, "Quality over quantity".

When you are in the beginning periods of having leagues, you will take any and all comers. You're just happy to have someone else interested in playing the game with you. I guess when you've seen enough and had enough bad experiences over time, your tolerance level dwindles.

People always use to think (at least here locally) that I needed them to have a league. Solitaire has shown many that I never really needed anyone to have a league as I can do and have what I want to have as far as realism is concerned. I brought people in to show them what they could have and hoped they would support what I did.

But I look at this as the final years of MF for myself and I want to spend that time enjoying the game and good friends. I would like to pass on whatever knowledge I can to those trusted friends who seek information. Styxx hits on some great things and Jeff Priest in his concise reply was right on. Character is big for me. Gosh, I know I love the competition but I also know at the end of the day, me and my friend should hold no ill will or malice. I've seen this in games and I have no time for that.

RooMorgans brings out a great attitude about playing anybody. I just hate I don't share that attitude anymore - use to! But I do still love the game and love to share it with friends but care not for the simple "notches" of beating this guy or that guy.

Thanks guys for all the responses. They are pretty much in line with my beliefs as well.

Reg